Thursday, April 1, 2010

When Being Right Sucks

Suffice it to say that there has been a fair amount of drama going on AROUND me.  Not my own.  That of good friends who I love and care for and am (honestly) honored to be able to "be there" for. 

And here is what I have learned.

1. Too much time in life is wasted worrying about what's NORMAL.  You know what's normal?  Whatever is happening right now.  To you.  To your family.  In your life.  And you can either spend your energy working on the ACTUAL problem, or worrying about what other people are going to think/say/do.  Own it.

2. Being right sucks sometimes.  There have been times in my life when being able to say, "I told you so," brought sickeningly sweet happiness.  But as I've gotten older, sometimes I'm right about things I don't want to be right about.  Like a relationship that you KNEW wasn't going to work out, but the heartbreak that comes from the seperation is so sickeningly stomach churning that you'd rather be wrong than have your friend go through it.

3. Love is fragile, and keeping it alive and healthy requires an active, conscious, thoughtful, passionate energy. 

4. Sometimes you have to know when to say enough is enough.

These are contradictory, and confusing.  I would share more, but the stories aren't mine to tell.  They have, however, changed me.  Made me better and more grateful and more loving.
The world is what we make it, and mine is going to be loving.

3 comments:

maude said...

well said. you hang in there and keep loving.

[<3 allison]

The Didlake's said...

Amen Sistar!

Brooke and Aaron said...

I love #1. So so true. Abigail is getting so big. I can't believe it!!